Worst way to learn that you’ve been cuckolded: finding a used condom in your wife’s hooha. (For the doubters: yes, it can happen). (observer.org.sz + onedatatime.typepad.com)
Original post by Lux Nightmare
While we were at SXSW in Austin earlier this week we had the good fortune to attend a screening of “Sex Positive,” a documentary by Daryl Wein that charts the beginnings of safer sex education in America. Focusing on the life of Richard Berkowitz, a gay hustler turned safer sex activist, “Sex Positive” discusses the rise of AIDS in the early 80’s — and the dramatic effect it had on the lives of gay men across New York City (and eventually, the rest of the world).
During the post-screening Q&A session, Berkowitz addressed the question of the today’s rising HIV rates, arguing that safer sex education has ceased to be sexy. Where we once had porn stars promoting condoms and pamphlets outlining the many ways that sex can be both safer and sexy, now we have dry lectures on the necessity of condoms (when we have lectures about condoms at all).
Here at Fleshbot, we’re all for bringing back more porn star-fueled safer sex ed. Come on, you know you’d be more likely to roll on a rubber when your favorite fantasy object was up there telling you how hot they got him (or her, for that matter). Just ask Chi Chi LaRue.
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· Sex Positive at SXSW (2008.sxsw.com)
· SxSW ‘08 Interview - “Sex Positive” director Daryl Wein (efilmcritic.com)
· Sex Positive (imdb.com)
· Stayin’ Alive: The Invention of Safe Sex (amazon.com)
Original post by Lux Nightmare
In case you were keeping track, we did miss our Best of Sex Advice roundup for the last couple of weeks — but not because of laziness or forgetfulness or even neglect. Frankly, your problems just weren’t that interesting! Maybe everyone was just feeling cocky in their post-Valentine’s Day bliss, or maybe—heaven forbid!—you’re actually starting to figure this stuff out on your own. That would be a sad blow to our nation’s underworked and underpaid advice columnists. And bloggers who desperately need silly things to make fun of. Won’t you please think of them (and us) the next time you’re worried that your lover/parents/teachers will find out about your kinky fetish, or worse … that your kinky fetish isn’t freaky enough to talk about in a major national newspaper? Nonsense! No matter how sexually enlightened some of you may be, we’ll still be sitting here waiting to read all about those of you who aren’t.
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· Dr. Thomas Stuttaford and Suzi Godson (timesonline.co.uk)
My new girlfriend has disconcerting sexual practices such as rubbing her clitoris during sex and not allowing me to caress her breasts. Is it me or her?
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· Dr. Dick’s Sex Advice (drdicksexadvice.com)
I think I have a spanking fetish. I say I think I do, because I never tried it. But I want to. I think my partner would be up for it, but I have yet to ask her. I thought I’d ask you first. What are your thoughts about spanking?
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· Savage Love (thestranger.com)
My question is on Dom/sub slave etiquette. Assuming things with this new woman work out, at what point should I break up with my sub? Should I tell her about the other woman? Should I tell her in advance we are ending (”Your next visit will be our last”) or should I just ask her to come over and break up then (”We both knew this was only going to last so long”)? Do I help her find a new Dom? This isn’t a regular breakup, so I’m not really sure how to do it. My sub loves to serve, so would it be cheating on my next girlfriend if I let her keep doing domestic tasks for me, but nothing sexual? Should I tell my next girlfriend that I had a sex slave for a while?
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· Jersey Girls (providencedailydose.com)
How do you talk dirty? What do you as women like to hear that gets you all hot and bothered?
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· Open Up: The Pucker Up Forums (puckerup.com)
I’ve seen reports from guys who have gotten full ejaculatory orgasms from anal sex, without any oral or manual stimulation of the penis … I’ve come pretty close, even getting a very milky pre-cum, but didn’t quite make it to the Big O … Any comments or advice?
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· Stacey Grenrock Woods (esquire.com)
I get these really nasty headaches every time I ejaculate. It doesn’t matter if I’m having sex or just masturbating. Please help me.
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· Get Naked (timeout.com/newyork)
Can someone please tell me what’s so hot about having sex in the shower? … it’s actually a big pain in the ass, with little payoff.
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· Miss Information (nerve.com)
My boyfriend of six months insists on wearing [condoms.] I was under the impression that once we were exclusive and both got tested, we wouldn’t use them anymore. I’ve been tested, but he somehow ‘hasn’t gotten around to it.’ … Is he just lazy or what? I just want to make sure I’m not missing the obvious.
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· Love Bites (eyeweekly.com)
I am a 22-year-old gay man. The other day, while reading the labelling on a condom, I read the words for “vaginal use only.” Being gay, I researched this only to find on the Canada Health website that condoms are only subject to inspection if a complaint is made. I couldn’t find anything about if they should be tested for anal sex.
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Previously: Best of Sex Advice Archive
Original post by Dashiell Bennett
We thought everyone loved those New York City condoms as much as we do –until we found out that a group of Orthodox Jews think that the slogan “Get some” is “grossly offensive” and “encourages young people to have unprotected sex.” Hey, no one tell them about “Assraelis,” okay? (nysun.com)
Original post by Lux Nightmare
As the globe continues to heat up, our collective urge to go green gets stronger. But what to do when things start heating up in the bedroom too? If you’re looking for some environmentally conscious naked fun — or just can’t resist a certain kind of environmentally conscious marketing hype — consider Babeland’s Eco-Sexy Kit: an earth- and body-friendly toy box full of goodies that practically guarantee your fair share of a different kind of global warming. And you won’t have to worry about your carbon offset in the morning!
There were four parts to my kit: a Babeland massage candle (to get things warmed up nice and naturally), a bottle of Emerita OH Warming Lubricant (to keep the heat going), Mamba condoms (to keep you from getting, uh … you know), and, best of all, a Laya Spot vibrator (for when you need a little extra kick). All products in the kit (with the obvious exception of the Laya Spot) are all-natural, with no animal testing or animal-derived ingredients.
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I started off my evening with the massage candle, lighting it with the Babeland-branded matches that came with the kit. (A nice touch, I must say.) As the scented soy wax heats up and melts, it transforms into a warm massage oil. Though the oil felt nice at first, it quickly became sticky, leaving a less than sexy residue on my skin.
Next I checked out the lube. As a girl with a bit of experience in the fine arts of handjobbery and butt fuckery, I consider myself something of a lube snob: too often, artificial lubes are too thin, dry out too fast, or just taste really bad (an important consideration if you happen to switch to some oral action after you’ve lubed up your partner’s privates). Surprisingly, Emerita was none of these things. It had a pleasing thickness, lasted quite a while, and tasted pretty good (at least by lube standards). Though I was hesitant about the advertised warming action—apparently generated by cinnamon bark—it turned out to be surprisingly pleasant, if a bit shortlived. During sex, the warming action fizzled out pretty quickly; though it was certainly nice while it lasted. [Note: Though my Eco-Sexy kit came with the OH lube, Babeland’s website advertises the kit as coming with Emerita Natural Lubricant, so you might end up with a slightly different configuration.]
As for the Mamba condoms, it’s nice to know that the non-profit that produces them is “15 times more stringent” about their testing than any other condom company in the world, they were, well, condoms. The latex was non-irritating, they didn’t break, and really, that’s all there is to say about them.
Finally, the clear crown jewel of the kit: the Laya Spot vibe. Small yet sensuous, the Laya Spot conforms to your curves while fitting into the palm of your hand. The easily accessible controls, which fall right under your fingers when your hand rests on the vibe, allow you to guide your body through six levels of vibration, as well as three distinct pulse patterns. For something so small, the Laya Spot rocks quite hard—I had no idea two AAA batteries could produce so much power.
A note to the phthalatephobic: the Laya Spot is made of elastomer, a soft, hypoallergenic material that’s phthalate-free, and an excellent alternative to jelly rubber. However, it’s important to remember that elastomer is slightly porous and cannot be disinfected so, nice as this toy is, it shouldn’t be shared with any friends (no matter what they told you in kindergarten about sharing.) The Laya Spot is waterproof and can be cleaned with soap and water.
Overall, I was pleased with the kit. The products are high quality and complement each other nicely. Whether you’re looking to spice up your next Earth Day or just make your love life a bit more organic, the Eco-Sexy kit is a great way to green your bedroom.
· Buy the Eco-Sexy Kit (babeland.com)
Original post by Lux Nightmare